They may also feel anger or rejection of their parents for what they are living unjustly, and helplessness because they can not do anything about it and, of course saddened by all that they are witnessing. Others may show rebellion against authority, failure of different magnitude at school, or they can close in on themselves as part of a defense mechanism against the damage they produce the separation. Not all react the same way, depends primarily on their personal characteristics and how they are handling the situation of separation of parents. You need to understand that divorce the spouses cease to be, living in different houses, can have emotional relationships with other adults, but parents still the children they had together. They become ex-husband, ex-wife, but divorce does not make them a expadresa . Studies show, which is preferable for emotional balance and healthy development of children, some parents separate but happy parents who live together but fighting, without carrying any loving relationship. Eventually they come to understand that, if handled assertively, even as one may assume most of his life experience that will grow as people. However, for this to happen, it is essential to consider some basic recommendations: Do not use children as elements of revenge, manipulate, ignore them as individuals, reducing the quality of objects to show respect toward the figure of his former partner, dialogue, keeping a calm attitude, candidly discuss (without painful detail) what is happening, why, without blaming anyone, much less to the children because it can affect you severely, encourage you to ask what you want and answer honestly, taking into account their age, comprehension skills and personal characteristics.